A lot of guys are trying to find ways to talk to women that allows them to come across as suave and attractive. It can actually be quite easy if you stop doing a few simple things that straight up don’t work.

Here is my advice on how to talk to women:

Don’t use pick up lines. These will set you way back. Most guys use pick up lines as a crutch when they’re too lazy to actually pay attention to the girl or her situation. You’ll be just about as attractive as a homeless guy begging for a dollar. “Spare a buck or two?”  Does that make you feel like sitting down and meeting someone new?  I didn’t think so.

Also don’t try to impress her with your fancy job title, new sports car, or any of your other worthless toys. This is just going to blow up in your face because you’re starting things off by treating her as someone you have to impress. You are walking up to her with the frame of mind that you are below her. If you grew up with a little brother or sister, you know how annoying it can be when they try to hang out with you and your friends and impress you. Not something you want to be.

While we’re at it, don’t get hung up on the girl’s looks. She likely hears it all the time. But then, I don’t need to warn you about judging books by their covers, do I?

Great, so we’ve gone over what to steer clear from. This is what I advise you do when talking to girls.

Approach her like a friend and just have a lighthearted conversation. Act like you two are completely equal. Some dating coaches will tell you to act aloof like you’re better than the woman. I don’t recommend that. You might overdo it and come across as condescending. This personally isn’t for me, but I will say that will put you ahead of all the men that make the mistakes I mentioned earlier.

If you see someone as an equal to you, there is no obsessive need to prove yourself to them. You simply enjoy each other’s presence and have a good time. Yes, there’s a good chance that she’s really attractive, but that’s no reason to act differently.

Don’t forget that she is like any other person and has aspirations and faults. Someone who isn’t perfect herself. Once you begin to really get this stuff, you never have to worry about coming off as creepy again. Plus you’ll have a fighting chance at actually getting to know the woman and building attraction.

The main point here is to not see her as someone you need to impress. As long as you approach her as someone you need to impress, you’ll be blown out before you even introduce yourself. Talking to girls isn’t all that tough. Just go up to girls like you would anyone else.

If you enjoyed this article, also check out How to Approach Girls, Where to Meet Girls, and Talking to Women.